The last year has been an amazing journey. The most obvious thing has been my weight loss. Dropping around 130 pounds, running a half marathon, wearing clothes I only dreamed about fitting into, and the list goes on. But there are a lot of other things that have changed that maybe aren’t so obvious.
By getting my addictions to bad food under control and taking responsibility for myself, I was able to see other things in my life that I needed to work on. I have said so many times before that if you are a fat jerk and lose 100 pounds, you will just be a skinny jerk. What are you going to do about the person that you really are underneath the fat you are hiding behind?
The biggest lesson I think I have learned this year is to live simply. What does that have to do with health and weight loss or anything for that matter? Well, I realized that I have a tendency to cover things up with newer bigger better. If I feel like crap, I want an exotic meal with new tastes, and to fill myself to the brim with it. Or I want to absorb myself in TV and kind of forget about the world. I have a tendency to smooth over the problem with “things”.
By deciding to take responsibility for my life I was forced to look at the very core issues of who I am and why I do the things I do. I decided to not keep on living on auto pilot. I have the most supportive family anyone could ask for. We do everything as a family. We are extremely close. So when I decided to follow a “real foods” diet, the whole family did it. Not to say that my wife and kids don’t have more room to indulge than I do, and none of us are perfect, but they are extremely supportive and there never was any sort of stress or friction because I wanted to change the way I eat. So we stopped buying junk and focused mostly on building meals based on quality meat and vegetables. I love to eat and I love to cook, but I have taught myself the joy of cooking simple meals that are good fuel for our bodies. The enjoyment comes from sharing with each other around the table and not necessarily from making the richest, most exotic foods. At the end of the day, food is fuel.
Another way we have simplified is by cancelling our cable subscription. We have high speed internet at home and a netflix subscription. We have one TV show that we watch regularly, Parenthood, which comes on a local broadcast channel. We don’t sit quietly in front of the tv for hours just flipping through hundreds of channels aimlessly. We have picked a few TV series on Netflix and watched through them, but always intentionally. The TV isn’t the “go to” place where everyone gathers. This has taught me to be more present. You don’t have to be entertained all the time. I am learning to open my eyes to what is going on around me and to be a participant in my life and not just a spectator.
These are just a few of the ways I am learning to simplify. I will share more if anyone is interested.