Last Update on August 29, 2016 // Written by Hank
Relationships come with their ups and downs, but there is someone out there for everyone. While you don’t want to have to change yourself to find someone there are still things that you can, and should, do in order to be more appealing if you’re looking for a steady relationship that will turn into love. Even your bad habits may be attractive to someone else who shares those same bad habits.
Consider Who You Are Looking For
You need to think about what kind of woman you want in your life, and learn what it is that type of woman would be looking for in her Mr. Right. If you are addicted to alcohol and spend most nights at the bar, someone that doesn’t drink and prefers to be a homebody may not be the right fit for you.
Instead of looking for love in all the wrong places, or changing yourself to fit into some other ideal, simply look for someone that fits into your lifestyle. Changing for other people can actually lead to resentment, and can quickly lead to a short lived relationship. You want someone that accepts you and loves you just the way you are.
Know When Your Behaviour Is Destructive
If you partake in destructive behavior, like drug abuse and alcohol abuse, and you decide that you want to become clean, for whatever reasons, you may find that perfect person you hooked up with who has the same tendencies as you isn’t quite ready to get clean. This is another thing to consider when it comes to finding Miss Right.
If you really want to find everlasting love, take some time to figure your own things out before you start looking for the right person to share your life with. You want to offer the best side of you to your future spouse or lover, and you can’t do that if you are in a life pattern you may want to change. Get help, whether it’s through meetings or therapy.
Put Your Best Foot Forward
If you’re ready to find real, lasting, love, you don’t want to be the guy that women simply look at as a friend, but you also don’t want them to think that you’re only looking for one thing. If you fall into the friend zone, because you are a “good guy,” it can be hard to get back out. Make sure your intentions are clear, and it can often help you avoid that confusion with your dates.
Take your time to get to know your love interests. Make sure they are also getting a chance to know the real you. You’ll have better luck creating something real and lasting if you’re both straightforward and honest about who you are and what you are looking for.